“Struggling with Infertility: A Family’s Journey”

Written by Kyle Meyer, a resident of Halifax. For additional details on CBC’s First Person stories, please refer to the FAQ.

Ever since our daughter was a newborn, my wife and I have been repeatedly asked by acquaintances, colleagues, and even strangers about our plans for a second child. The pressure to expand our family beyond one child has been palpable, making us feel like deviating from the norm.

Initially, we envisioned a family with two children, influenced by our individual experiences growing up with younger siblings. For us, a family felt incomplete without a pair of siblings engaging in typical childhood antics together.

Following the birth of our daughter in 2019, we intended to have another child as part of our family plan. However, we decided to postpone expanding our family until our daughter was older, to ensure we could give her our undivided attention during her early years.

After experiencing a miscarriage before our daughter’s birth, we cautiously embraced the idea of welcoming a second child into our lives. In the fall of 2023, my wife became pregnant again, sparking a mixture of hope and apprehension due to our previous loss.

Unfortunately, our hopes were shattered during an ultrasound on Dec. 23 when we received the devastating news that the pregnancy was not viable. Coping with this loss during the holiday season was incredibly challenging.

Following this heartbreaking event, we took a break from attempting to conceive to emotionally recover. When we decided to try again, we were met with further setbacks, including infertility, intensifying our emotional burden and reshaping our family plans.

Despite exploring various options with specialists, we are gradually accepting the possibility that we may not have another child, leaving us with a sense of incompleteness and unfulfilled expectations.

Our journey has been a challenging one, marked by setbacks and emotional turmoil. As we navigate this difficult path, we are learning to come to terms with the idea that our daughter may be our only child.

Our experience is not unique, as many couples face similar struggles with miscarriage and infertility, highlighting the prevalence of these issues in society. Approximately one in six Canadian couples experience infertility.

Before inquiring about someone’s family plans, it is essential to consider the sensitivity of the topic and the potential emotional wounds you may unintentionally reopen. Family planning is a personal matter, and respecting others’ privacy is crucial.

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